These days I find my mind going into overdrive. Overthinking every step, every message, every action as if it will somehow how me the light and tell me what I need to know.
I think what’s worse than what other people expect, is what you expect life to be like, especially romantic relationships.
Movies, music, friends and even family have a way of confusing you with how certain relationships should be conducted and work. Everyone has their rules and their insight of how it should be all working. This should be said, this should happen next, there should be flowers and attention and a guy playing music outside your window.
What we forget is that is all a work of fiction. It is not reality. It is all a romantic notion of what life could be like, or what life should be like.
That is such a dangerous game to get yourself into. You end up setting up mental expectations that you didn’t even know you had. You start expecting someone to act a certain way, or treat you a certain way, when they might be taking their own time to come to a realization.
A contemplation of a minute turns to an hour to a day to a week to a month, and before you know it, an 8-hour day feels like months.
In this mental battle no one wins. Is this necessary? Absolutely not! If we constantly blast through to children that being different is unique and important; how do we expect that every stage of their life will be the same? It’s an oxymoron and a great one at that.