If I have learned anything so far in my legal education, it’s that disclosure plays a key competent in the running of the system. Not just the disclosure, but also when information should be disclosed. I feel that this is a universal lesson that really can be applied in all aspects of our life.
When to tell your friend that there is a sample sale? When to admit that you have an obsession with The Mindy Project and secretly, you are looking for your Danny? When to, maybe, disclose your past to your partner? I am, by no means, a relationship master, considering I *think* I’ve been on 1 date in my whole life (LOL #truestory), but from observation alone, I feel like I could be the next Oprah!
Disclosure is important in a relationship, there is no doubt about that, however, there is always a line. Always a line of when to disclose and when to say what. There is no game in that, it is simply surviving a relationship. No matter how much trust and ‘loyalty’ that may exist. There is always a way and a time to tell the story; especially considering your past.
Although this may be an unfair rule, or it may be only South Asian guys that this applies to (from what I have seen), but one way or another, they assume some level of ‘purity’. Sure, in this day and age, who doesn’t have an active sex life, but you know it, your neighbour knows it, and your grandma knows it: sometimes the guy is not ready to know your number. Sometimes the guy is never ready to know the stretch of your sexual history.
The double-standard sucks, it’s practically regressive, but it’s there. There is no point in arguing with it, and no point in changing it. The most you can do is being smart about it, and when to tell your partner about it. As romantic as movies make it seem, sometimes the prince is not a prince: he is just human.